Top Ten ‘Girl Crushes’

This is the 3rd in my series of “Top Tens”. In no particular order, I bring you my Top Ten Girl Crushes. See the end for an “honorable mention”, too. And ladies, you know you all have them…that famous girl you want to be like (or BE…if you’re super creepy), or just want them as your best friend. Here are mine.

Definition: Girl Crush- feelings of admiration and adoration which a girl has for another girl, without wanting to date said girl. A nonsexual attraction, usually based on veneration at some level. (

Let me just start by stating (just in case you weren’t sure haha) that I am a completely heterosexual woman. My father may wonder, since I rarely tell him about anyone I’ve ever “seen” (i.e. NOT date, just hook up with). He bases my entire adult dating experience on the two men he knows about, that were “boyfriends”. They happened to be complete scumbags. So, of course, he told me so, and likes to remind me when given the chance. I don’t dispute this. The fact that I do not want children (again, not a shocker- I’ve said it since I was 18), nor do I feel the need to be out searching for a husband really kills him, too. I’m starting to conclude that he may think I’m a lesbian, because I also live in pj pants and tees (since I don’t work). He’s mentioned to my mom how much weight I’ve gained. I have 3 cats. I don’t exactly blame him if he does wonder. But I’ll just rather him ponder that, than telling him the alternative (Can you imagine; “Dear Daddy, I can get laid kind of whenever I want cause I’m a girl and I have giant boobs and a vagina. It’s easier than dating and there are no strings attached. Sometimes, your daughter can kind of be a ho. Love, Erin”). That said, I do have a litany of non-sexual “girl crushes”, as I think many of the ladies out there do. Something in them resonates with us-  they are relatable.

Lucy Griffiths-

I have been in total girl crush mode over Lucy since I started watching the BBC show ‘Robin Hood’ a few years ago. I liked her because she was really  pretty, but wasn’t insanely skinny or fake looking.  She has a face that is beautiful, but isn’t emaciated. When she joined ‘True Blood’, I was so excited. I was actually able to watch her on real (not downloaded from England) TV. Then, they paired her with Alexander Skarsagaard on the show, so I really wanted to live vicariously through her. As much as I do not want children, Lucy is one of my favorite names a girl. Her British accent just makes her even more fantastic.

Christina Hendricks-

How can you not love her? I don’t watch ‘Mad Men’, but she is absolutely stunning. When the New York Times called her “big”, her husband wrote back in response. She has stated that she has curves and books, and she loves her body. Rock on! It’s comforting to the rest of us with ginormous boobs and the knowledge that we will never be “skinny”, even at a healthy weight. Curves are sexy!

Venus (as depicted by Botticelli)-

Obviously, this probably seems weird, but the Renaissance painters did not portray their women (or goddesses) as thin, perfect angelic beings. In the Renaissance, women were revered for their curves and their natural bodies. Look at Venus, she has a bit of a round stomach, hips and thighs. This is how Sandro Botticelli envisioned the most beautiful of the Roman Goddesses (Aphrodite, in Greek mythology)- as an imperfect woman. A woman’s body was celebrated, not criticized.

Princess Aurora/Briar Rose (Disney’s ‘Sleeping Beauty’)-

(Side note: the pic to the left is by a digital artist who recreated the Disney Princesses as “real” women. Thought it was neat.)

This is the first girl crush I’ve ever had. Since I can recall, I have been a complete ‘Sleeping Beauty’ devotee. I just remember, even at 4 years old, thinking she was so beautiful with her blonde hair, and pink dress. I had dark brown/black hair and I just wanted to be a princess and wear that pink dress or the cottage dress and dance in the woods with Prince Phillip. I still count ‘Sleeping Beauty’ as one of my favorite movies, and though I’m about to be 30, I have a whole little section of my room, devoted to ‘Sleeping Beauty’ things I’ve collected over the years (this whole Disney Princess revival wasn’t around when I was a kid/teen…I had to search for the things I have). Aurora was, and still is my absolute favorite girl’s name. Too bad I’m not having kids 😉 I’ll just have to have cats named Lucy and Aurora.

Kat Von D-

I think Kat is hot, in a bad-ass way. I don’t think her personal life is all that interesting (ew, Jesse James), but she is just a cool chick, that has proved that tattoos aren’t necessarily a BAD thing. Sure, I’d never get as many as her (or on my face), but she wears her skin well, and she is an amazing artist, too. She’s self-sufficient, runs her own business, and looks stunning.

Britney Spears (circa 2000-2001)-

Oh, Britney. Oh, Britney….I loved you so much. I saw you in concert twice. I even saw ‘Crossroads’ in the theater (and own the DVD). I still want to love you. But when you wore that nude sequined outfit at the VMA’s…I wanted to be you. I wished I had a body like that. Though I wasn’t a fan of the snake the following year, I still had a girl crush. And then…that Vegas marriage to the random guy, then Kevin Federline, two kids in like one year, a shaved head…ohhhh, Britney. I know she’s started getting herself back together, and she has a fiancée who seems like a good influence. But I just loved early 2000’s VMA Britney. I feel like it all went downhill after the Justin Timberlake break-up….

Kristen Bell-

I find her to be adorable. Veronica Mars is one of my favorite characters and one of the (in my opinion) greatest TV shows of all time. Kristen Bell is a huge animal advocate, she is funny and pretty- without looking fake. She is in her 30’s and looks 20. The video of her crying when her boyfriend, Dax, surprised her with a baby sloth was absolutely fantastic. I just want to be best girl friend’s with Kristen Bell.

Keira Knightley-

I saw a movie YEARS ago on TV called ‘Princess of Thieves’. It starred Keira Knightley (and a very unrecognizable, long-haired Stephen Moyer- aka Bill on ‘True Blood’). I just thought she was very pretty and had a lovely accent (I’m a sucker for accents that aren’t creepy). I loved when she was in ‘Love Actually’, and of course, alongside one of my man-crushes, Orlando Bloom, in the “Pirates of the Caribbean’ trilogy. My girl crush was further solidified when she starred in ‘Atonement’ (I had read the book years ago).  Basically, I will see anything she stars in. I think she is a tremendous actress and dazzling, to boot.

Liv Tyler-

Liv Tyler has been so enchanting to me, since she first starred in ‘Crazy’, the Aerosmith video. Next was ‘Empire Records’. I remember thinking that (back when I was in 7th grade in 1995) Liv Tyler was what I wanted to look like when I got older. And, the fact that she was part of the ‘Lord of the Rings’ trilogy just made her even more likeable, to a geek like me. In twenty years, she barely looks like she’s aged.

Dita Von Teese-

The Marilyn Manson marriage aside (he’s so creepy)- Dita is fabulous. She’s perfected the burlesque/pin-up girl image. She makes sex look classy. I wish I had a waist that size. I admire any woman who is content with herself. I would love to see one of her shows. I read her coffee table book she wrote, and I just think she’s a girl to be reckoned with.

Honorable Mention (Gay Man Crush)

Neil Patrick Harris-

He plays straight better than most straight guys. He can sing, dance, act, host….and you can tell that he is in a happy relationship and loves his partner and their children. It was very interesting that they both are the father of one of each of their twins, but don’t want to know which one. The fact that he (and even his partner, David Burtka) can mock his persona in the ‘Harold and Kumar’ movies, just shows how incredibly tongue-in-cheek he is, and the fact that he is gay just makes him, somehow, more appealing to me!


Top 10 “I Dare You NOT to Cry” TV Moments (in my humble opinion) *SPOILER ALERTS

This is the second of my self-imposed TOP TEN Lists, which I started with TV kisses. Now, of course, it’s time to depress myself and delve into the Top 10 “I Dare You NOT to Cry” TV moments. In no particular order, my choices (and the clips). Get a tissue (or a box)…

Alaric’s “Death”, “The Vampire Diaries”, ep: “Do Not Go Softly”. The scene outside of the tomb was too much for me. I sobbed like a giant baby. For a good hour. After it was over. The Fray’s “Be Still” is hauntingly appropriate.

Buffy has to kill Angel, “Buffy: The Vampire Slayer”, ep: “Becoming, Part 2″ * I used this as one of my top kisses, but what follows, Buffy’s realization that she must killing Angel to stop the porthole from opening, and the aftershock reduces me to tears every time. Just watch, as Sarah McLaughlin’s “Full of Grace” plays. (it’s about 7 min in…)

Guy of Gisbourne kills Marian, “Robin Hood”, ep: “A Good Day to Die/We Are Robin Hood”. I was in disbelief that they killed her off, and refused to believe it until the next season. She was one of my favorite characters, ever, and her deathbed wedding just breaks my heart.

Charlie dies, “LOST”, ep: “Through the Looking Glass”. There were A LOT of deaths on “LOST” over it’s 6 season run. Boone’s was the first where you realized no one, not even a main character, was safe. But, Desmond kept telling Charlie he saw visions of his death. I figured they played it up too much to actually do it. Still, Charlie sacrifices himself to blow up one of the Dharma Stations, and gives Desmond one final message, ‘NOT PENNYS BOAT’.  When he does the sign of the cross before drowning- KILLER.

Denny dies, “Grey’s Anatomy”, ep: “Losing My Reigion”. I wasn’t a huge fan of the show, or of Izzie. I stopped watching completely by the 4th season. But Izzie’s realization that Denny is really gone after Alex tells her “It’s not Denny, not anymore”, is searing.

Dr. Greene dies, “ER”, ep: “On the Beach”. I would watch this show periodically, but what always reminds me of this episode is the sound of my sister in her room when she was like 15, unbeknownst to us watching it, and loudly, hysterically sobbing. We thought her boyfriend had broken up with her. The funeral scene, with the old colleagues and the current, is touching.

Desmond contacts Penny, “LOST”, ep: “The Constant”. I know this is my second ‘LOST’ choice, but this whole scene is just amazing, and I cry every time .

Agent Emily Prentiss “dies”, “Criminal Minds”, ep: “Lauren”. For a show that deals in death, this was the first member of the team to “die” (though, of course, she didn’t, but only Hotch and JJ knew that)- the look on the face of the team when they (don’t even have to) hear the news, clinched it.

Logan tells Veronica how they were supposed to be “epic”, “Veronica Mars”, ep: “Look Who’s Stalking”. This is one of my absolute favorite TV quotes, from one of my absolute favorite TV characters. I always had a thing for tortured guys.

Buffy promises not to forget, “Angel”, ep: “I Will Remember You”. Angel is turned back to a human, but loses his ability to save others- so he sacrifices what could have been with Buffy- knowing that she’ll have no memory of it. Only he will.

***Addendum- as this was written before the latest TV season began (2012-2013), I will be adding to this:

Damon talks to Alaric’s grave, “the Vampire Diaries”, ep: “Memorial”. The vampire that never cares, that lost his best friend (who he also killed a bunch of times)- Ric was Damon’s heterolifemate. I’m still pissed about last season. But listening to Damon’s monologue as he’s holding back tears just broke my heart.

Lady Sybil Branson (nee Crawley) dies after delivering a baby girl, in “Downton Abbey”, ep: “Series 3; episode 5”. She is supposedly “cleared” of all “complications”- then, she begins seizing in the middle of the night, and dies of Eclampsia at 24 years old, leaving her whole family, the servants, and her ex-chauffer hubby, Tom, wrecked. I dare you not to bawl.

Opie sacrifices himself for Jax, Tig, and Chibs after one of them is forced to fight to the death on “Sons of Anarchy”, ep: “Laying Pipe”. The funeral itself was a sobfest, but watching the SOA seeing the brother killed before their eyes, powerless to stop it- gutwrenching. “I got this”- Opie.

Top 10 TV Kisses (in my humble opinion) *SPOILER ALERT

As a Pop-Culture/Entertainment enthusiast, I often see (esp on the website) list of the top # of whatever for whatever….so I’ve decided to do my TOP TEN Lists, starting with TV kisses. In no particular order, my choices (and the clips). Some make me happy, some are just sexy…AND some make me cry-

Ross and Rachel, “Friends”, ep: “The One Where Ross Finds Out”.  You rooted for Ross, then for Rachel. Then, you think they’re just not meant to be, after he tells her she was too late. But the sight of him at the door, in the rain, literally taking her breath away…if only they hadn’t gone on “a break”…

Buffy and Angel, “Buffy: The Vampire Slayer”, ep: “Becoming, Part 2”. Buffy realizes that Willow’s spell to give Angel back his soul has worked, and they can be together. Yeah, for like a second. But still, what a kiss. (it’s about 7 min in…)

Robin and Marian, “Robin Hood”, ep: “A Clue? No”. All season their chemistry built, but she was promised to Guy of Gisbourne, and trying to save Robin, the outlaw. But after realizing that she didn’t have to go through with wedding because Gisbourne had lied, we finally got a season long pay-off.

Cassie and Azazeal, “Hex”, ep: “Possession”. I fell in love with Michael Fassbender long before he was becoming famous for being fully naked, by watching this BBC show, which, like “Robin Hood”, most people in the USA hadn’t heard of. Azazeal was BAD NEWS (he’d even killed her best friend), and even though he’d put a spell on her, this scene was just beyond sexy.

Damon and Elena, “The Vampire Diaries”, ep: “Heart of Darkness”. OK, we waited three seasons for this- A REAL, full-on (not because Damon was “dying”) kiss. And it SO paid off. Til stupid Jeremy had to ruin the moment. Cock block! The on-screen chemistry between this real-life couple puts the on-screen chemistry of Elena and Stefan to shame. TEAM DAMON!

Eric and Sookie, “True Blood”, ep: “I Wish I Were the Moon Tonight”. Minus his horrible outfit of gym shorts and a sleeveless hoodie (which was worn for about 3 episodes), Eric coming to Sookie after Bill frees him (out of his own love for Sookie and her happiness) stops your heart. And then we see Alexander Skarsgaard naked and out of that outfit- FINALLY, so SCORE!

Jim and Pam, “The Office”, ep: “Casino Night”. You thought Jim had given up, after Pam rejected his “I love you”. You want to cry, as you see him tearing up. And then, through the eyes of the camera crew, you watch as he makes his move, and all is right, right then. Because you know she was telling her mom that she loved him.

Sawyer and Kate, “Lost”, ep: “I Do”. So hot! I was (til the end) a Kate/Sawyer fan, not a Kate/Jack fan. When Kate realizes Sawyer didn’t tell her that they were trapped, so that she still had hope, you see all of the tension and feelings and pent-up frustration at their situation just come out. In a cage. Sigh.

Veronica and Logan, “Veronica Mars”, ep: “Weapons of Class Destruction”. I remember watching this series right from the start, and slowly starting to like Logan, little by little. When he goes to save Veronica, thinking she’s being abducted, and she responds by kissing him- thereby confusing HERSELF, it only makes it that much more awesome when he grabs her and REALLY kisses her. I wasn’t expecting this, and I rewatched it about 20x that night. The song that plays is “Momentary Thing”, by Something Happens.

Chuck and Blair, “Gossip Girl”, ep: “War at the Roses”. Chuck and Blair had already been there, done that a bunch of times. But it was the fact that they had been so consumed in destroying each other, so as not to deal with their pain, that just lights this kiss on fire.

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